tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3866999321562419109.post6665051757317871892..comments2023-05-04T08:24:57.483-04:00Comments on This Isn't What I Was Expecting: Mother? I Have No MotherAmberhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03777609339556901804noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3866999321562419109.post-66107472162979998412013-12-22T02:43:16.304-05:002013-12-22T02:43:16.304-05:00I'm sorry to here, especially given the other ...I'm sorry to here, especially given the other stresses in your world right now.<br /><br />I don't know if it is something about a generation (or two) of people, but I sure know a lot of people who's parents are varying degrees of narcissistic, to the point of personality disordered. It *(#$(*&#$ sucks when it is a (or both!) parents.<br /><br />The death of a parent, functional or not, is really difficult to survive and move past. But there is something about a parent repeatedly failing and marring a child that is, I don't know, just #$()*#$ heinous. I had two parents with mental illnesses, the most narcissistic one is still alive. It doesn't matter what the status of our relationship is at any given time, it is one of endless devastation, even during the best of visits, even when I haven't spoken to him for 5 years.<br /><br />I have had to find ways of looking out for myself more, both for my own survival but also so that my kids are not affected by me trying to figure out how to survive. I am finding that this is the only way the whole thing eases up in any way, shape or form for me (and therefore us).<br /><br />So I'm sending hugs of support, and a knowing that only comes from being right there beside you in this particular form of hell.<br /><br />I'm sorry it hurts so bad right now. xoxkarenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15428202747324083680noreply@blogger.com