On second thought it’s not OK. How do you like that? It is not OK to comment on how I look at work. Yesterday it was the dude basically saying I looked like shit by saying I looked like a Monday and today it was one of the shop guys saying my dress was “quite the getup”. I can’t win.
My office is casual, we can wear jeans and sneakers if we want. I took full advantage of that all winter wearing jeans and boots almost exclusively for a few months. Now that we are warming up I am ready to start dressing more like myself and myself likes to wear dresses. Dresses are great; you don’t have to think hard about getting dressed, there is nothing to match and the best part, NO PANTS! Toss on a dress and you’re done. Also, as the receptionist I am the face of the company, I do my best to represent it as best as I can and being a bit more dressed up than someone cutting metal all day helps.
I am not saying I dress to necessarily impress at work but I wear what I am comfortable wearing. This is my dress today, pretty modest really (sorry it’s blurry but I didn’t think I would even be using this picture).
I have about 20 dresses that I will be wearing all summer all pretty similar to this in terms of length and some may even (gasp) be sleeveless! Am I going to have to worry about hearing comments every time I come to work?
It’s one thing to say “nice dress” or “I like that tie” or whatever but “quite the getup” has a different, sexy, tone to it. At first I blew it off because he’s from the shop and they talk back there like they talk in a sports bar but I wasn’t in the shop, I was at my desk doing my job. For a moment he made me feel bad about myself and doubt myself and that’s not OK.
I know I am being a little dramatic, this isn’t even something that warrants a note to HR – if it happens more than yes, of course, but right now it’s just something that made me feel like shit. After yesterday being made to feel so ugly and then today being made to feel like some kind of temptress I just don’t even know anymore. But I know that it doesn’t matter if he works in the shop, delivers or rugs or runs the whole damn place it’s not alright to make comments to me about how I’m dressed just because I’m a woman. It is never OK.